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Never Prepared Enough

Posted by on January 27, 2014

The other day I was driving and my brain was going. It does that a lot, and then I can’t remember how I got from point A to point B. Not too long ago, I was going through a fight sequence in my head for my upcoming project, and I arrived at the grocery store without remembering how I got there and the last stoplight. This time I was driving down the back roads and reflecting on this past year, the journey to publication, and how it related to becoming a parent. Probably thinking way too deep to be driving. Ha!

And it hit me. We can never be prepared enough.

being preparedI’m a perfectionist and I like to be prepared. I have feeling there’s going to be a lot of P’s in this post. Before I was pregnant with my first child, I devoured information on babies and parenting. I wanted to be prepared to be a parent. It’s only common sense, right? Except one thing…You cannot prepare to be a mom. Nothing can prepare you for the demands, the crying, the lack of sleep. Nothing! You can read all the magazines, books, blogs, watch videos, etc but once you go through labor you realize a little too late: there is no preparing for the amount of pain, sacrifice, and challenges you’ll face. We can have all the head knowledge of how something should be, but it won’t mean anything until we have experienced it, and it burns a hole in our hearts.

I did this with marriage as well. Whatever made me think I could prepare for that?

Publishing! Now, here is something we can prepare for, right?

Kind of sort of not really, but we’ll be further ahead than if we didn’t do anything at all.

Entering the world of publishing is a lot like entering the world of parenting. I might think I have prepared by reading books, magazines, and blogs. I wrote, rewrote, edited and repeated. But then my book lands a contract and I scramble to apply all those cool things I’ve read about and realize…experience is priceless. Now, I do have to admit the preparation for publication has helped a lot, and I think I was way more prepared to bring a book into this world than a baby. Probably because I had a baby first?

And I’m pretty sure this applies to anything and everything. A teacher studying and preparing for his or her first job in the classroom. A doctor? A chef? Life?

Now, don’t get me wrong. Preparation is important and beneficial, but it is too easy for us to become rigid in our head knowledge. Too easy to dispense advice when having never experienced it the first place. But whether we wing it or prepare for it, I wonder if we all learn it the “hard way”?

Last year was an amazing year, crazy, but amazing. I learned so much and I’m looking forward to see how my journey will unfold as we bring you the next chapter in Ayianna’s story. So what say you? Do you like to be prepared or do you just wing it?

4 Responses to Never Prepared Enough

  1. sparksofember

    I have done the exact same thing while driving. It’s like instincts take over but it’s a little scary at the same time. Although, since I have this habit of sometimes stopping at green lights, I like to think that’s safer than the alternative. Not that my husband feels very reassured. 😉

    And I do the same – research everything obsessively. I rarely buy anything with reading reviews first – even if it’s just $30 “anti-vibrating washing machine pads.” I’m pretty good at filtering through reviews to get a good feel for something, too. Weeding out both the vitriol and over-loving. I feel blessed to live in this day and age where it’s so easy to research. Though back in high school (mid-90’s) I was know to hit the library to scour the Consumer Reports magazine. I was also one of those nerdy kids who read the encyclopedia A-Z just for fun. 😉

    • J.L. Mbewe

      Thanks for sharing! I totally agree, I hate spacing out like that while I’m driving. Ha!

      And yes, I love researching and reading through all the reviews of stuff. You can definitely get a better idea of a product that way.

  2. Aaron DeMott

    I’m so glad that I’m not the only one who does that while driving!

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