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No Stone To Throw

Posted by on May 19, 2014

I’ve been watching the debating and the criticizing of the movie Frozen, particularly people’s attack on Elsa. Sure, the critics are going to point out all the plot holes and what not. To each their own. What gets me is the attack on Elsa’s character. They criticize her for her behavior, judge her, scorn her, turn up their nose at her. How could she do this, do that?

Sound familiar?

Perhaps people criticize her because they don’t want their kids to emulate her behavior. Perhaps they can’t see beyond her actions. They only see her failure, her attitude, her sin. Heaven forbid we become like her.


Maybe it’s difficult for some people to understand what it’s like to live in fear. To block and close out others, thinking they are trying to protect others and themselves, but not knowing that what they are doing is actually causing worse damage than if they were to embrace the truth. Whether it’s insecurities or hurt, fear paralyzes and messes with the mind. It wreaks havoc in our thoughts and hearts seeping out to taint and destroy.

Maybe they’ve never struggled with something so much, that no matter what, they failed.

I have.

I know it’s just a story, but perhaps how we respond to movies, books, character plights, and such reflect how we see the real world and the people around us.

But the beautiful thing about stories, is that they can illustrate life lessons, highlight truth, or reveal what life might be like without the love or grace or hope.

And with Elsa, no matter what, her sister loved her and sacrificed herself to save her. It was love that set them both free. Now isn’t there beauty in that? Reminds me of one of my old posts. The opposite of love is not hate, but fear.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t have a stone to throw.

14 Responses to No Stone To Throw

  1. Clare Davidson

    I have no issues with Elsa’s character. She’s flawed, mainly because of the mistakes her PARENTS made. She shows herself to be level headed (saying Anna could marry someone she’d just met). She believes she has to be isolated because she can’t control her powers. She can’t control them because she wasn’t allowed to learn how to.

    I have other issues with the film (such as Hans not being properly set up to be an antagonist), but not Elsa’s character. If anything, I think she is a refreshing heroine: one with real flaws that she has to overcome.

    • J.L. Mbewe

      I agree on both accounts! I had to rewatch the movie to see if by chance I had miss some kind of foreshadowing about Hans. The only thing I could come up with was when he was singing and how he was looking for his own place or something like that. When they started singing, I was like, oh, no, not the instant love connection. But in reality, that should have been a red flag. Ha!

      • Clare Davidson

        It was lazy story telling, which could have been fixed just by altering the animation. For instance, when he has the dopey look on his face when he’s in the water after they’ve first met, a more sly expression would have been a great start!

        • J.L. Mbewe

          Exactly what I was thinking! I almost added that to the last comment. I read something somewhere that he was playing the chameleon, being different with whoever he was surrounded by. And maybe they were wanting us to be as surprised by it as Anna was. Still, the reveal was jarring.

  2. Lynn Donovan

    Beautifully said. And I agree with you. Fear is the obstical to love. Thank you for reminding me. (BTW, I loved Frozen!)

    • J.L. Mbewe

      Thanks Lynn, I loved it too. 🙂 And I think we all need to be reminded every now and again. Thanks for stopping by!

  3. Rebecca Minor

    You know how it is–something has wide success, and there are always people out there waiting to knock it down a peg.

    I did have problems with some of the lazy storytelling that other folks are talking about, and I do think that moms/dads should be having the discussion with their little girls as they belt out “Let It Go” that the song is the moment that transforms Elsa from a victim of bad judgment into a villian (if only a temporary one.)

    The message is pretty mixed, but hey, it’s Hollywood. To be expected. There are good things about the movie to be appreciated as well as flaws to discuss. All out attack? Sounds like fear at work to me.

    • J.L. Mbewe

      True. And I think it is a great idea to discuss the movies and books the kids watch/read. But I don’t see Elsa as a villain. She is struggling, trying to make it right, and as she is struggling to do what she thinks is right, it’s destroying people and things around her. It’s not until her sister’s sacrifice that she realizes that love can set her free. And as she let’s go of the fear, she’s able to be who she was created to be. But I suppose in the grand scheme of the movie, she did become the antagonist.

  4. netraptor001

    Good grief, people are going off on Elsa? I haven’t followed the hype because I liked Frozen but we didn’t go nuts over it. If people want to tear up the story, go tackle the incoherent mess that is the Snow Queen! Frozen is a thing of beauty compared to that. And Hans not being foreshadowed–that’s Pixar standard right there. Nobody gripes about Waternoose in Monsters Inc, but he was the same kind of plot twist oh no he’s the villain reveal. Nobody cared then.

    • J.L. Mbewe

      I just realized something…Don’t you think it s weird that the villain turned out to be Hans…when the original Snow Queen was written by Hans Christian Anderson??? Hmmm….

  5. Kassandra Lamb

    Great post! I thought this was one of the better Disney movies. Elsa is more flawed than their heroines normally are, thus her struggles are more realistic–how to be herself without hurting others.

    And I liked the twist with Hans. I wasn’t completely shocked so I think there was some subtle foreshadowing there. Usually Disney is more heavy-handed with the foreshadowing. But again I thought this was more realistic.

    But I can see how this one would be a tough movie to explain to kids. The rights and wrongs in it are not so clear-cut, but that’s life!

    • J.L. Mbewe

      Thanks Kassandra! Good point! I hadn’t thought much about the other heroines, but you’re right. Her struggles are more realistic. I think Tangled’s Rapunzel is as well, but more caricature. If that makes any sense. There is depth to the story, and I think it has something to do with the what you said, the rights and wrongs aren’t so clear cut, making us think more. It’s not a movie I can just watch over and over, but I did enjoy it. Thanks for sharing!

  6. sparksofember

    I’m surprised people are vilanizing Elsa, too. I must have missed that hype. It’s silly – we’ve all given in to momentary selfishness and at least she’s running off to be by herself, not taking it out on everyone around her (not intentionally anyway). After rewatching the movie, I even see the seeds for the solution planted from the very beginning. It’s sad her parents misread that.

    • J.L. Mbewe

      Yeah, I’ve seen a few comments scattered throughout cyberspace and Facebook. It’s not a hype, but it struck a chord with me, and this post just came to me. I saw it too. It is sad that her parents misread it, but being a parent myself, I can relate. Parenting is hard! And it is so easy to fear. And fear just makes a mess of things. Thanks for stopping by and sharing!

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